Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey Therapies
If you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, consistently do things for others at the expense of your own needs, or find yourself masking who you really are because you feel you're 'too much' or 'not enough', this podcast is for you.
I'm Charlotte, a former anxious people-pleaser, experienced psychotherapist, speaker and visibility mentor for female business owners who think deeply, care deeply and want to feel safe to be seen.
We'll explore all things people-pleasing; why you suppress your own needs and wants and true self for the sake of other people's, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on all aspects of your life.
I'll share personal and professional insights and you'll discover tips and strategies to help you break free from people-pleasing so you can move forward with confidence and finally say 'no' without guilt and anxiety as you embrace your authentic self, unapologetically.
I’m passionate about normalising therapy and making it more relatable, so expect down-to-earth, no-nonsense conversations—with the occasional bit of humour thrown in (fingers crossed!). My aim is to help you feel empowered to discover who you truly are, and experience the freedom that comes with letting go of the need to constantly please.
Episodes
33 episodes
From Burnout and Breakdown to Finding You Again with Vicki Gilby | Ep 32
When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-pleasing led to a breakdown that ultimately became a turning point.We explore identity l...
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Episode 32
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37:31
How Personal Style and Mindset Can Transform Your Business Confidence | Ep 31
In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real and relatable conversation about confidence, self-expression, and breaking free from old patterns.
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Episode 31
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44:47
How to Feel Comfortable Being Photographed: Overcoming Self-Doubt and People-Pleasing | Ep 30
I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering. I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is abo...
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Episode 30
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25:18
Are You As Kind As You Think? The Truth About People-Pleasing vs Kindness | Ep 29
You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes ...
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Episode 29
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16:23
How to Recognise if You're An Overcomitting People-Pleaser (and how to stop the cycle) | Ep 28
If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running aroun...
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Episode 28
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20:48
The Hidden Problem with the ‘Let Them' Theory | Ep 27
Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice?In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the ...
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Episode 27
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27:29
Do you really like that as much as you say you do? The Chameleon Pleaser - a chat with Hannah McLachlan | Ep 26
Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing...
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Episode 26
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35:40
Breaking the Cycle of Over-giving & Finding Your Worth Beyond Your Actions - with Nicola Jayne | Ep 25
In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond what she gave and achieved and provides insights on how to start receiving as much as you give.<...
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Episode 25
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28:22
Living Life by Others’ Expectations vs. Living in Line with Your Values - with Natasha Scullane | Ep 24
Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’s expected - only to realise something still feels off?In this episode, I chat to fellow therap...
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Episode 24
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19:45
From People-Pleasing to Living Life on Your Own Terms - with Matt Hassan | Ep 23
In this episode, Matt Hassan (@veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of embracing life on his own terms...
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Episode 23
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33:28
Why You Often Feel Like You Don't Have a Choice | Ep 22
Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to say yes? Like you had to go along with something, even when every part of you really didn’t want to? You might just think, "I have to do this," or, "There’s no way I c...
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22:01
Juggling Life Without the Overwhelm: The Power of Boundaries with Eve Cale | Ep 21
In this episode, I speak to Eve Cale, a busy mum, wife, and business owner (@giftwrappedbyeve), about the vital importance of setting boundaries in everyday life. Eve shares her experience of realising she was spreading herself too thin and how...
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Episode 21
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29:57
Why You Flip Between Feeling 'You're Too Much' and 'Not Enough' | Ep 20
Different to the usual episodes - this is for all you if you often find yourself flipping between feeling like you are 'too much' and 'not enough'. I'm sharing with you an audio from an ad-libbed reel I posted to Instagram. These words come str...
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Episode 20
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3:00
From People-Pleaser to Confidently Authentic: What I Learned in 2024 and What’s Next | Ep 19
2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to reflect on your own growth and set meaningful intentions for the year ahead.In this episo...
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Episode 19
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15:41
Things Aren’t Bad Enough for Therapy? Myths, Benefits, and How It Can Transform Your Life | Ep 18
Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would actually want therapy for. Maybe deep down you know you want to stop people-pleasing but...
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Episode 18
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20:18
12 Practical Ways to Start Tackling Day-to-Day People-Pleasing Habits | Ep 17
In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I'll talk about the importance of learning how to observe your habits with curiosity - paying atte...
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Episode 17
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13:50
Is People-Pleasing Sabotaging your Career? | Ep 16
If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in...
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Episode 16
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17:52
Why Boundaries Are Good For Your Health - with Sheena, The Pain Therapist | Ep 15
My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance - for y...
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Episode 15
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29:00
Is Parentification Behind Your People-Pleasing? | Ep 14
In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practica...
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Episode 14
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17:58
Here's A Sneaky Way Good-Girl Conditioning Might Be Showing Up For You! | Ep 13
Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my success and how it’s a sneaky habit rooted in good girl conditioning. I explore why so many women fee...
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Episode 13
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10:34
People-Pleasing & Setting Boundaries At Christmas | Ep 12
The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect. In this episode, I talk about signs you're going into people-pleasing mode this Christmas and expl...
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Episode 12
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30:14
When You’re Growing and They’re Not: Navigating the Disconnect | Ep 11
If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain people in your life just aren’t on board or on the same path.In today’s episode, I’m talking ...
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Episode 11
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13:25
Why You Say You’re OK With What Your Partner Does (Even When You’re Not) | Ep 10
Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t want to come across as a nag or seem insecure, or maybe that’s exactly what you’ve been told when yo...
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Episode 10
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12:44
Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word... for People-Pleasers to Stop Saying | Ep 9
Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response?Are you sick of of saying ‘sorry’ for things that aren’t your fault? In this episode I talk about the habit of over-apologising – where it comes from, why it’s so common in people-plea...
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Episode 9
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13:50
How People-Pleasing Is Making You Ill | Ep 8
I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout, making boundary-setting even more imp...
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Episode 8
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23:36