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Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey
Do you often wonder why you find it so hard to say 'no' to people?
- Maybe you struggle to make time for yourself because you can't switch off — you feel like you should always be doing something.
- Perhaps you've always felt too sensitive, too dramatic, too needy, too different... 'too much' — and yet never quite enough.
- Maybe you've been self-sacrificing, suppressing, and masking for so long that it doesn't even feel like a mask anymore — you can’t remember who you really are beneath it.
- Or you're a therapist or a woman with her own business, someone who cares deeply about what you do — but ‘good girl’ conditioning and spiralling overthinking hold you back from marketing yourself, because being seen doesn’t feel safe.
I'm Charlotte, an experienced psychotherapist, speaker and coach and mentor for women business owners who care deeply about what they do but struggle with overthinking and showing up without the cringe.
I'm so passionate about what I do because for decades, I lived as an anxious people-pleaser—constantly trying to keep others happy so I’d be accepted, always feeling like I was 'too much.'
Until one day, I realised I’d lost myself completely. Something had to change.
When it did, it brought a level of freedom I’d never felt before.
Getting to the root cause helped me let go of the need to please—and finally connect with the real me I’d been suppressing for so long.
With that came a new sense of self-trust, self-belief, and authentic confidence.
And I want you to know: you can find that too.
In the podcast I explore all things people-pleasing, trauma and good-girl conditioning; why you people-please, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on all aspects of your life.
I'll share personal and professional insights and you'll discover tips and strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and break free from what's holding you back, so you can move forward as your authentic self with confidence - in life and in business.
Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey
Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50
If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty.
In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.”
This episode includes:
Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or prioritise yourself
How to reframe guilt so you can see it as a sign of growth, not wrongdoing
A guided reflection exercise to help you uncover the root of your guilt and begin reframing it
If this episode helps you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it - and stay tuned for the next episode, where we’ll explore practical strategies to rewrite those old rules for good.
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Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.
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