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Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey
Do you often wonder why you find it so hard to say 'no' to people?
- Maybe you struggle to make time for yourself because you can't switch off — you feel like you should always be doing something.
- Perhaps you've always felt too sensitive, too dramatic, too needy, too different... 'too much' — and yet never quite enough.
- Maybe you've been self-sacrificing, suppressing, and masking for so long that it doesn't even feel like a mask anymore — you can’t remember who you really are beneath it.
- Or you're a therapist or a woman with her own business, someone who cares deeply about what you do — but ‘good girl’ conditioning and spiralling overthinking hold you back from marketing yourself, because being seen doesn’t feel safe.
I'm Charlotte, an experienced psychotherapist, speaker and coach and mentor for women business owners who care deeply about what they do but struggle with overthinking and showing up without the cringe.
I'm so passionate about what I do because for decades, I lived as an anxious people-pleaser—constantly trying to keep others happy so I’d be accepted, always feeling like I was 'too much.'
Until one day, I realised I’d lost myself completely. Something had to change.
When it did, it brought a level of freedom I’d never felt before.
Getting to the root cause helped me let go of the need to please—and finally connect with the real me I’d been suppressing for so long.
With that came a new sense of self-trust, self-belief, and authentic confidence.
And I want you to know: you can find that too.
In the podcast I explore all things people-pleasing, trauma and good-girl conditioning; why you people-please, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on all aspects of your life.
I'll share personal and professional insights and you'll discover tips and strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and break free from what's holding you back, so you can move forward as your authentic self with confidence - in life and in business.
Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey
I Thought I Was Being 'Professional'... But I Was Actually Avoiding Being Visible | Ep 44
In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical.
Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me a while to notice that I was actually avoiding putting myself out there - it wasn't really about professionalism at all, it was actually about protection.
I'm sharing this with you alongside some ways avoidance can masquerade and thoughts to look out for - so you can spot when you might be avoiding visibility at and start noticing with curiosity not criticism, what might really be behind that avoidance and how to start taking manageable steps forward.
If you're a woman in business and this episode resonates I would love for you to join me and the other speakers at the amazing Reignite & Rise retreat taking place in the UK on 7 October 2025 at Carden Park Hotel Cheshire - I'll be delivering my talk/workshop 'Reignite From Within: Rise With Visibility That Feels Like You'. You'll discover what's really holding you back, reconnect with the 'why' behind what you do, identify what you can do to start moving forward with confidence and rise with visibility that feels like you. I'd love to see you there! More info here
Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.
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