She Is Here™
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world.
This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen.
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She Is Here™
What is People-Pleasing? and Why don't you realise you're a people-pleaser? | Ep 43
What is people-pleasing?
and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it?
In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But behind that laid-back, dependable exterior? I was anxious, overthinking, and quietly abandoning myself every single day.
I cover:
- Why people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kind
- The subtle, everyday ways it people-pleasing in plain sight
- The internalised rules that keep us stuck in people-pleasing and guilt.
- Where people-pleasing comes from
- And why it can be so hard to stop people-pleasing, even when we want to change
This is the episode I probably should’ve made sooner. Whether you’re just beginning to notice your patterns, or deep in the work of unlearning them, I hope this offers the clarity, compassion, and language you’ve been looking for.
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